Being an adult can be exhausting. Making decisions, working every day, paying for un-fun things like taxes, car registration, electricity… UGH! Adulting is hard! But if I’m honest, I would not trade places with my younger self. I value my freedom too much to ever wish I was a kid again.
Remember having to sit still in school all day? Taking standardized tests? Practicing to take standardized tests? And having to ask every time you wanted to go to the bathroom?
Remember not being sure of yourself at all?
Remember having less money than you have now, even with all of the adulting bills you have to pay? I remember going into Banana Republic and positively SCOFFING at their clearance rack prices. I don’t really shop there anymore but I could if I wanted to. (Within reason of course)
Remember when you couldn’t drink alcohol? All of a sudden you turn 21 and family functions are fun!
Remember someone else having a say in your wardrobe. “You’re not leaving the house like that young lady!” Ring familiar?
Remember having little to no say in what you ate. Parents brought home what they brought home. Cooked what was cooked. And that was that.
Remember watching the news and not understanding what any of it meant?
I felt inspired to write this post because I’ve heard the phrase “adulting is hard” a lot lately, from friends to (painfully true) memes. And I am not disagreeing. There are many challenging days we all face as adults. But I fear if we buy too much into the idea that “adulting is hard,” we may fall into the trap of romanticizing our past and feel less joy in our present. A dangerous snare to fall into because we can’t go back in time. It could also become a self fulfilling prophecy: you’ve primed yourself to believe it is hard and so it is. As much as I hate to admit my various guidance counselors and coaches were right, attitude is important.
I find practicing gratitude, even for inevitable life events like growing up, can be helpful in times of stress. And if I’m ever overwhelmed with the world and all of my responsibilities, I turn to this mantra: